"It's A Black Thing, You Wouldn't Understand"



Scrolling through Facebook and i come across BuzzFeed's 'We Need To Talk About This Photo Of Barack And Michelle Obama' post. I'm sure we've all seen the beautiful Essence cover featuring Michelle and Barack, we've all noticed that Michelle has been blessed with a booty right? Cool. So the post was talking about the cover as well as speaking about Michelle assets.

Sylvia Obell mentioned black love in the post and the comments section picked up on it.


As a black person there are certain things within the black culture that seem completely normal to us. So anyone who's not part of that culture, is left completely confused. One of the comments on the Facebook post is a prime example of this confusion. Confusion is fine, if your willing to turn that confusion into some new knowledge.

Having to explain things to Non-Black people can sometimes be frustrating and annoying, but I think it's necessary. However if people don't want to engage in "schooling white folk" then I totally understand.

I get the whole "it's a black thing, you won't understand" concept but I don't believe that people can't learn or understand these "black things". They won't fully understand as it's a lot deeper than just one black person loving another black person, but that's the simple answer to "what is black love?".

I've heard the term "black love" my whole life, I've never once thought about what it truly means and what the real and original meaning behind it is. Neither did I ever think about what white people may think about it.


The why a question is presented is key!

A lot of the time Non-Black people ask a question regarding race or culture, they tend to add in their own answer.
I'm going to use the Facebook comment above as an example to show you how the questioned should have been asked; "I'm curious about the reference to term black love in the article, what is black love?". The way the original question was presented it kind of suggests to me, that they've already got an answer.


When "black" is placed in front of anything people are very quick to say "all" when all doesn't really mean all, it just means me.

Whenever people say "if I was to say or do this it would be racist" it annoys me, because yes it would be racist because it's never an authentic thing, it's always in response to something else. It would different if white love was a term used within the white community for years, then it would be authentic. The term black love was not a way to get back at white people. It's something we've decided to do I order to better our people, because nobody else was going to do it for us.


⬆️ This comment explains "black love" in a way that I've that I've never heard before. I didn't even think about the negative image of black relationships being shown.

The comments had people saying "black love is exactly what it is" and others saying "so I should be saying my husband and I have white love?"

I find it funny how people don't just ask questions there's always a sense of sarcasm within the question. If you haven't been calling the relationship you have with your partner "white love" then no you shouldn't call it that, because "black love" is not a new term, it's not something that is used to disrespect white people.


Race only divides and separates if you let it. Yes when race is mentioned in some cases it is to cause divide and separation, but then it's what you do with that information that matters.


The same way I will never fully understand what it's like to be in love with a white person as a white person, is the same way you as a Non-Black person will not fully understand black love.


For me black love is spiritual, it's warm, it's sexy, it's comforting, it's organic and it's beautiful.

I've put up two posts today, my second post is a wishlist: 'High Porosity Wishlist'

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